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I'm a fully employed working girl, and college student working on a Business major. Living in Miami but grew up in NYC. I love hanging out with my boyfriend and friends, being out in nature, cooking & baking, creative arts (painting, reading, drawing, crafts), watching tv, going to the movies, playing video games, I love almost anything anime, doing stuff online, etc. My goal in life is to own my own business. I seek to find balance in my life.

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Good ole days...

Any of you ever think back about your high school days. Sometimes i do and sometimes i dont. Other times i think about it too much. I went out to dinner with an old friend of mine recently. We got back in touch some months ago after finding eachother online. We have hung out several times since finding eachother again and we have caught up on so many memories. I dont know about anyone else but many times i have wished i could go back to high school and start over again from there. There are so many things i tried to do since then or tried to achieve and it just didnt happen no matter how hard i worked for it.

I dont know, maybe even if i could go back who's to say that things wouldnt have turned out the same, better, or worse. I have thought to myself maybe i should have done this or that and maybe i would be more successful now. I have learned that success is defined by you and no one else. If you are one of those people that like having a 9-5 type of job then that is success for you. If you are one of those people that have to have a big career like being a doctor or lawyer then that is success for you. Its kind of like that old saying about beauty, its in the eye of the beholder. For me success is more about being able to make money to live while still having the freedom to enjoy my life. Thats why i want to own my own business. I used to work in a ice cream dessert place and i loved it. I actually would like to have a business like that for myself. I'm more into the smaller retail type of business, not the big complicated corporate thing. I know business can keep you busy but thats ok. I would do it so i wouldnt have to work for someone else, but at the same time its not bad having a business to work at a little. That way you wont get too bored having nothing to do.

Basically on the part of not having done as much with my life as i wanted to do, its ok. I know what i want and even if it takes me longer i will achieve those goals. I have friends now that have the typical ingredients of what society says is successful; family, house, new cars, careers, etc. If you really think about that is not necessarily the success that people think it is. I read in a book years ago that there is no point in being jealous over what others have because wanting what they have means taking all the problems that come with it too. That is very true. My friends are not as successful as people think they may be, there is always more to the story. Some of them are doing well for themselves and that great, while others arent doing so good. One of my oldest friends is a real estate lawyer but has no work because of the current market. Others always complain about how they had their kids too early or are going through divorce now. Another friend of mine lost their house and another one cant afford their car anymore. I am just basically saying that people dont need to define themselves by what others deem successful. Yet unfortunately some people just had bad luck and unpredicatable circumstances that couldnt be helped. I am not trying to talk down about my friends but just making a point on how life can be and how it isnt what it seems. The grass is not always greener.

All in all, of my group of friends i am not the only one that wishes to go back to high school. It actually made me feel better about how i was thinking because for a time i thought i was the only one. Its awlays fun to go back and talk about good times and memories and stuff but dont dwell on them forever. People should move foward and work on achieving what they want and make their own goals. Dont forget the past though, it may be gone but its still a part of you and who you are. "Don't let your past dicate who you are but let it be part of who you will become."



9 comments:

b is for brown said...

ahhhh...yes. i so wish i knew back then what i know now.

otin said...

Very well said! Cherish your younger years!!

Magic City College Girl said...

thanks for the comments. b is for brown: i cant even count how many times me and friends have say if only i knew back then what i know now. otin: thanks. yeah that basically all i can say, since we cant turn back time all we can do is cherish those memories and remember them for the good times.

dangerkitty said...

I would like to go back to high school sometimes, especially because things were so much simpler then.

Magic City College Girl said...

dangerkitty: yeah tell me about it. i completely agree.

O.F.C.J. said...

Hello, I just found your blog.I understand what you mean, but I don't want to go back to my high school years. Too close. For me. I do relate with you wanting to start your own biz though, I have an entrpreneurial spritit also. I've even started a few super small ones when I was in middle school. I just really like the excitement and independence (!!!). Please check out my new blog.


THanks!

O.F.C.D.

TudorCity Girl said...

Very well said, Magic Girl. But you know what I've learned? I don't want to go back in life. Sure there are a thousand things I could have done differently in life, but hey, this is part of the journey and how we all learn.
What I have learned most from this year of unemployment is I am happiest living in the moment, day by day and never looking back... Only at the present, or forward.
Good to cherish your younger years but know the best of times are still ahead of you. :)

Lyn Hernandez said...

I love this post. I am not so sure about wanting to go back to high school, but I know that I sometimes want to go back to the simple days of my childhood.

Kae said...

Im still in high school so i don't have to think...well i have to think, just not "think back of highschool" kinda thing...heh.